Position of the Week: Sidle Up

Love oral, and looking for a way to switch it up? Sidle Up is a cosy, cuddly take on the traditional on-your-knees oral sex position. Take it easy and lounge beside your lover as you lick, stroke and suck them all the way to climax (or take it even easier by subbing in a blow job toy). Good times all round!

How?

What’s your flavour? Pick your favourite flavoured lube (Strawberry? Peppermint? Cotton candy?) and drizzle your lover’s vulva or penis. Ask them to sit on the side of the bed; feet hanging down towards the floor, legs parted.

Next, take your position: standing beside the bed, lean over so your stomach rests on the duvet and your head rests in your partner’s lap. Et voila: you’re now in the perfect position to treat them to extra-tasty oral sex. Delicious!

Hold yourself in place by cuddling the receiver’s bottom and hips, or by resting on your elbows and forearms; whatever works best for you.

Why?

While oral can be (almost) as much fun to give as to receive, it can get a bit samey. Sidle Up freshens the move up, offering a new – and, crucially, comfy – way to do things.

It can also come as a super sexy surprise! Next time your lover is sat on the edge of the bed after a shower, come up behind them and start kissing their neck, back, and shoulders. (Incorporate a little massage oil for a sensual massage if you’ve got the luxury of time).

Whisper in their ear, “Can I go down on you?”, and make sure they’re excited before you get in position.

Make it even easier

Sidle Up is ideal for pleasuring your lover without pressuring your knees. But, if lying down at this angle for more than a minute or two doesn’t work for you, take breaks where you sit up and kiss your partner all over. You can also switch between oral and a hand job to give your jaw a rest.

Edging – where you bring your lover close to climax but immediately slow things down or change the sensation – can lead to the most explosive orgasms once your partner finally climaxes.

So, don’t be afraid to draw Sidle Up out into an indulgently long session – and avoid back or shoulder pain in the process. Win win!

Make it even better

If your partner has a penis and wants to stay harder for longer, cock rings can help. (For more on how they work, and which one to choose, check out our guide.)

Make your blowjob deluxe by using an open-ended masturbator as an extension of your mouth. Coat the inside with lube (sloppy blowjobs are the best blowjobs, after all), and slide it up and down your lover’s shaft along with your lips.

Treating a partner with a vulva? As you tease their labia and clitoris with your mouth, simulate penetration with a dildo of their choice. Chat with your lover first about whether they’re into using a smaller or larger one, vibrating or not, realistic and veiny or smooth and sleek.

Make it even kinkier

While you’re treating your lover to oral, let them get you moaning too. If anal play is something you’re into, or would like to try, ask your partner to lube up some anal beads, and slide them slowly – bead by bead – in and out of your anus.

As you’re leaning over the bed into their lap, you’re in the perfect position to give them access to your anus – which is lined with sensitive nerve endings that can feel incredible to arouse. So why not make the most of it? They can also just slap or squeeze your cheeks if that’s more your speed.

Speaking of slapping those cheeks, if you like impact play, press a riding crop or spanker into your lover’s hands. Tell them you need a little encouragement as you worship their body.

But maybe it’s the receiver’s turn for submission? Cock and ball toys pair well with oral sex because they heighten sensitivity and can be used to tease your lover and restrict them from climax. For receivers with a vulva, a clit clamp will have a similar effect.

As always, be sure to speak to your partner in advance before introducing kink into your relationship. Establish your boundaries beforehand and have a cuddle and debrief afterwards too.

Not the position for you?

We're working to make sure that everyone is represented on our website, regardless of who you love, so we'll be using a variety of gender depictions in our Position of the Week posts. This will include straight, gay, lesbian, and gender neutral couples, but all positions will have details in the description of how to make them work for your own relationship dynamic.